BOY FRIEND MATERIAL

So this morning I was ironing my shirt and had CNN on in the
background...

This was pre-coffee, mind you, so I wasn't actually processing any
of the information coming from the TV. (I am officially a zombie
until I've downed a latte!)

Then suddenly, a story caught my attention.

Apparently, a recent scientific study has proven that when a
woman meets a man, she is subconsciously able to tell whether
he has the potential to be a long-term mate or just a fling...

(get this!)

...just by looking at his face!

I was like "Whaaa???" as I grabbed my TiVo remote and rewound
to watch the segment again.

That's right - the results of this study show that when a woman
sees a man with a strong, masculine look (square jaw, angular
facial features), she finds him attractive and knows he'd be
good for a little somethin'-somethin'....

But when she sees a man with softer, more rounded facial features,
she instinctively knows that he would make a better, more nurturing
husband and father.

Now far be it from ME to challenge science, but all I've gotta
say is...

Puh-lease!

I mean, if that were truly a realistic option - if we ACTUALLY
could tell which guys have the potential for long-term commitment
just from a quick scan of their cheekbones - think of all the time
and energy we women could be saving!

We'd know that the hot bartender with the chiseled chin who's
asking for our number is going to be more trouble than he's
worth...

We'd stop desperately trying to "change" a player into a
boyfriend...

And we'd start accepting dates exclusively from guys whose
online profiles showcase a photo of their big, chubby, round
face.

But let's get real...

It takes a lot more than a quick glance to size up whether a guy
has the qualities of a keeper.

And I'm going to tell you exactly how to do it in just a sec...

"But, Paige," you might be saying, "What if I don't WANT to
assess whether a guy has long-term potential when we first start
dating? That takes all the fun and mystery out of things! Can't I
just go with the flow and hope for the best?"

Um, sure, if the idea of wasting years of your life on a man who
never wants to commit to you on the level that you expected (and
doesn't change his mind on the issue like you thought he would)
sounds appealing, then go for it! Sounds like the
ignorance-is-bliss route is for you.

If not, then there's a much simpler way.

If you want to find a relationship that has the potential to
develop into something serious and fulfilling, you must screen
the guys you meet and only date the ones who are Boyfriend
Material.

But how will you know when you've met a guy who's Boyfriend
Material (without having to peer through his stubble to get a
good look at his jaw line)?

Easy. Just refer to the checklist in my ebook "Dating Without
Drama!"
http://www.dating-without-drama.com/datingdish/datingdish6c

If you haven't gotten your copy yet, here's a Sneak Peek of
the checklist...


Is He Boyfriend Material? A Checklist of Signs:


__ Passion:
Does he have goals and dreams for his future? Is he
committed to pursuing them?

__ Good Health & Habits:
Does he take good care of himself (eat well, go to the
gym, etc.)? Does he have any habits that are deal-
breakers (Drug or alcohol abuse, smoking)?

__ Balanced Emotional State:
Does he seem stable? (Beware of overly jaded types,
those with excessive 'emotional baggage,' or men with
rage issues or out-of-control mood swings.)

__ Treats You Well:
Does he treat you with respect and consideration? How
do you feel when you're around him - happy, relaxed,
safe? If he makes you feel uneasy, insecure, controlled,
or threatened, he is definitely not boyfriend material.

__ Treats Others Well:
Is he friendly with his doorman? Is he kind to
waitresses and generous with tips? If he's pleasant
with other people it's a good sign that he's not just
putting on an act for you.

__ Healthy Relationship Track Record:
What is his dating history like? Is he a serial
monogamist or the king of one-night stands? If he
hasn't dated much (or at all), that could also be a red
flag. If you know other women he's dated in the past,
do they have good things to say about him?

__ Good Relationship With His Family:
Is he close with his family? Does he treat his parents
with respect? Is he friendly with his siblings? These
are all good signs of a quality man. However....Beware
of the Mama's Boy! A man who hasn't "cut the cord" with
his mother is nothing but trouble - either he'll expect
you to wait on him and make his bed OR you'll spend your
life trying to live up to the perfect image of Mommy.
Either way, it's not good - so get out now and save
yourself for a man who will make you the #1 woman in
his life!

__ Maturity Level:
Does he follow through on his responsibilities? If he
blows off a commitment to stay home and play Xbox, he
may not be ready to meet the obligations of an adult
relationship.

Get the REST of the "Boyfriend Material" Checklist as well as
dozens of other tools for dating success in "Reflections and
Revelations: A Dater's Self-Discovery Guide" - it's my bonus
gift to you when download my Dating Without Drama ebook!

Just follow this link to get your very own copy:

http://www.dating-without-drama.com/datingdish/datingdish6c

...and in just minutes you'll be on your way to learning how
to make the love life you've always dreamed of a reality!

Thanks for DISHING! I'll write you again soon.

Your friend,
Paige